New years resolutions: The most common resolutions and how to make a resolution that is more achievable.

As we approach the new year and shortly after, there is a lot of buzz on t.v., newspapers and magazines about New Year's resolutions and picking and sticking with the right one.A New years resolution is a promise we make to ourselves to add, delete or change a habit, skill or subject of interest in our life. By new years eve a person is to have selected something about themselves to work on and to have it acquired or altered by the following new year. One whole year sounds like a long time but in fact it comes much quicker than we realize, especially when we have not met our set goals.

These resolutions are mostly the same theme every year. Some of the most popular being, lose weight, stop smoking, save more money, make more money, find true love, get married, find a better job...all that apply to making a fresh start for one's self, with something they are unhappy with in their lives. Once this grand challenge has been picked we begin to tackle it. Although, after a few short weeks we get stressed, get lazy, give in and give up. All because we had to have just one doughnut, one smoke, that awesome purse etc. Once we have a small set back it is as if that means we are done trying. I'll admit, when I have made resolutions in the past I have done the same thing. It is hard to change an old habit and create a new lifestyle. Therefore I believe we need a new approach.

First and foremost try to be honest with yourself. What do you really want to start, or change about yourself or your life? And be realistic. It isn't likely that you can make yourself a millionaire within a year, or stop smoking in one day or even find your true love, get married and have kids by the following new years. Next, start slowly, begin in moderation and set smaller goals. For instance, if you want to lose weight try setting a five pound goal first, instead of "I'm gonna lose thirty pounds!". Five seems much more achievable in a shorter amount of time. Then when you have reached your goal increase it. Same thing goes for smoking. Make a deal with yourself to cut back first, instead of going "cold turkey". This way you don't set yourself up for failure but give yourself a better chance at success. Most of us want instant gratification. This we will have to forgo for a bit and try practicing some patience.

Another tactic on following through with your resolution could be to use the "buddy system".  A best friend, co-worker or spouse could work on their goals along side you.  They do not have to be working on the same commitment to themselves as you, but can act as a coach when you are feeling like giving up.  You may do the same for them.  This may give you more strength and will, to continue working towards success.  You could also make it a competition between the two of you, or even have an entire group of friends join in.

Maybe the best resolution of all is not to have a resolution at all, but to make a promise to yourself to make an attempt at facilitating a better life in general. In today's society we already have enough pressure on our backs with all the responsibilities that trickle down upon us as we grow older. I have not yet picked a resolution and if no great topic strikes me, I may not make a resolution. But if I do, I will work on it differently than in the past, by taking smaller steps at success. So when you ring in the new year and give your hunny a big kiss, give yourself a break and start the year off with more realistic, achievable goals in mind. Good luck and Happy New Year!!